- I knew I would marry my DH within weeks of meeting him.
- It took him a little longer, but not too much.
- My mom knew it was for real when I went fishing with him on January first.
- Even with neoprene waders, I was cold. But I was also in love.
- We dated for almost seven months before we got engaged.
- He proposed to me on a fishing trip in NYC harbor.
- Fish & fishing are constant themes in our lives.
- At least, I thought it was a fishing trip--for stripers. I was dressed in pretty crappy clothing. But instead of tackle in the box, there was a ring. And instead of bait in the cooler, champagne.
- Both sets of parents knew and helped him plan the proposal.
- I was totally floored—he’d convinced me he wasn’t going to ask for another couple of weeks.
- The engagement also lasted about seven months.
- We got married twice—once on Friday and once on Saturday—in two churches (his parents and mine) to make both sets of the family happy.
- In between weddings we had a rehearsal and a rehearsal dinner for almost 80 people. And we went to Wendy's before the rehearsal, dressed in our wedding regalia.
- I had two dresses. And two bouquets. Only the one groom, though. J
- I like to tease that he’s my second husband.
- We got married during the school year.
- I did cancel my Friday classes that week.
- Our honeymoon was postponed until Thanksgiving because we both had to go back to school on Monday.
- We went to
for our honeymoon. It’s one of my favorite places to go, and their Christmas display is fantastic. Longwood Gardens
- My DH’s first language is Russian, although he was born in NJ.
- I have learned enough Russian to have conversations with four-year-olds.
- My accent is good enough to make grown-ups think I’m being modest when I say (in Russian) that I can’t speak much Russian. I’m not, but they keep speaking at me anyway.
- I speak French reasonably well, and lived there for eight months after I graduated from college.
- I speak no Spanish, but managed to pass a language test in it anyway.
- I feel this proves that I know how to use a dictionary really, really well. And really, really quickly.
- I grew up in rural NJ. (And no, that’s not an oxymoron!)
- I have one sibling, a brother. He’s four years younger than me, but six inches taller. I still refer to him as my little brother.
- I also call him “Brat.” To which he actually answers.
- The Russian word for brother is “brat,” which cracks me up.
- He’s one of my best friends.
- My nephew was born prematurely, at 29 weeks. That was seriously scary.
- It was also when I started knitting more—he was in the NICU and needed hats made by his aunt.
- That was more than three years ago, in 2004. He’s doing great now. I totally adore him and the way he calls me “Duzan” ‘cause he can’t get the “s” sound quite right.
- I love chocolate. Dark chocolate, in particular.
- Once, when we had a layover in
, I made my husband go to a café for what the guide books called “the best hot chocolate in the world.” It was good. Switzerland
- I think the hot chocolate from L.A. Burdicks is better.
- I think the hot chocolate from Jacque Torres is better still.
- I’ve always been an avid reader. When I was little, my mom would tell me to put the book down and go outside. I’d take the book with me and climb up into a tree to read.
- I read very quickly—the last Harry Potter novel took about seven hours, start to finish.
- When I was in junior high, my favorite book was Gone with the Wind. I’ve read it at least a dozen times.
- My favorite poet is Alfred, Lord Tennyson. I fell for him when I was 14 and haven’t looked back since.
- That’s probably why I’m working on a dissertation on Victorian poetry.
- My dissertation is on women poets, though, and the way they use dramatic monologues. Tennyson only makes a brief cameo.
- I love reading bad novels. I can’t stand bad writing, but I love cheesy romances and crazy mystery / thrillers.
- I'm a bit of a grammar freak. I think sentences are fun. And that you can do cool things with hyphens. And semicolons. I'm very fond of semicolons.
- I reread all of Jane Austen most years, just ‘cause. I reading about that period. Some of the more modern authors I like in that same vein are Georgette Heyer and Lauren Willig.
- I also like audiobooks. They’re good for knitting, and I don’t feel guilty about “reading” popular fiction that’s unrelated to my job or dissertation. I've listened to all of Jasper Fforde's novels on audiobook.
- I teach writing at a local university.
- This is the start of my tenth year teaching at a college. I still get comments about looking too young, though.
- I helped develop a new version of our business writing course last year. It’s been pretty successful.
- I swam in high school and in college. Breast stroke, mainly.
- I still hold the record at my high school in the 100 yard breast stroke.
- I didn’t study abroad in college because I didn’t want to miss a semester of swimming.
- I was co-captain my senior year, when I also blew my shoulder out and had to have surgery.
- All-in-all, it’s not a great way to spend your last college spring break.
- I loved college, though.
- I went to a very small liberal arts school, in a lovely setting.
- My best friend was also my roommate for three years in college.
- She’s my favorite person to knit for. Even though she doesn’t knit herself, she appreciates handknits and actually wears them.
- One of my favorite projects to date is a hat with fish on it. I made it for my husband’s best friend, because he asked (after seeing a “We call them pirates” hat) if I could.
- He wears it a lot, but I still don’t have a picture.
- My mother taught me how to knit. She knits mainly baby blankets and buntings, even when she doesn’t know anyone who’s pregnant. She figures that they’ll come in use, eventually.
- My friends started having kids, and that’s why I bugged my mom to teach me to knit.
- My SIL felted the blanket I made for my nephew. I still love her.
- I even still knit for her. Machine wash and dryable only, though. (That was the problem with the blanket: machine wash, lay flat to dry.) Although for Christmas I'm making her a shawl. In Malabrigo laceweight. But she shouldn't need to wash it (and I may insist she give it back to me to wash!)
- After college, I spend a year living in
. I taught English in a local high school. France
- “Taught” is a bit on an exaggeration. Really what I did was run conversation classes. And teach them how to play baseball.
- I’ve traveled to
France, Holland, Italy, and by myself. England
- I’ve traveled to
England, Ireland, Poland, Belarus, Russia(twice), Mongolia, China, Canada, Bermuda, and with my husband. Barbados
- I’d recommend all of them except for
. Pretty country, nice people, archaic rules about who can go where and when. Belarus
- We had to drive 200 miles north to cross the border of
in order to drive 200 miles south to visit the place we wanted to go, which was less the 6 miles from where we’d started. Belarus
- We had to reverse the process on the way home.
- We also had to pay a tax on the picnic lunch we brought in with us.
- We've been married for almost 8 years (since November 1999). We’ve moved our stuff seven times and lived in five different apartments. We also had everything in storage for two summers while we were in
- I hate moving.
- Especially in August, which is mainly when we move, since we’re both academics.
- My husband has three masters’ degrees. I only have one.
- He’s working on a dissertation, too. His is in Eastern Europoean politics. We’re trying to cover an entire wall with framed degrees.
- We met when he was working as the director of graduate admissions at my graduate school. He didn’t admit me, though.
- He’s taught me how to fish.
- I will even take the fish off the hook. Not all fish (some have scarier teeth than others), but I’m working on it.
- I’ll put worms on, too, but only for my nephew.
- I’d like to go tuna fishing one day. And salmon fishing in Alaska.
- I don’t drink coffee. I never have. I don’t like the taste of it.
- I don’t even like the taste of coffee ice cream.
- I do like tea, though, and drink several cups a day.
- Even when it’s hot outside.
- Although then I generally switch to iced tea after my first cup.
- My favorite type of alcohol is champagne.
- My favorite champagne (technically, sparkling wine) is Domaine Carnaros, which is Taittinger’s American venture.
- We went to San Francesco,
Napa Valley, and on a trip shortly after we got engaged, and visited the vineyard. I think that’s partly why I like it so much. Sonoma Valley
- All of our wineglasses are from vineyards we’ve visited. And all of our drinking glasses are pints from brew pubs.
- We’ve gone bobsledding in
- We like to drive up to
for lobster. Maine
- Our traditional New Year’s Eve involves bad movies, Trader Joe’s hors d’oeuvres, and Domaine Carnaros.
- I love B-movies involving oversized animals, particularly those involving water. (A totally different invocation of
- I love flowers and plants, but have not had much success with growing things. I’ve managed to kill both mint and bamboo.
- I’ve also had an orchid that’s been flowering continuously for the last year. I’ve put it down to Divine intervention.
- My father is a wonderful gardener. He rescued my Christmas cactus last year after I thought I’d killed it.
- I like both of my parents a great deal, and wish we lived closer and could hang out more. I wish my brother and his family were closer, too, but that's all about the nephew.